![]() It quite possibly is! And they would likely trade their problems for yours. You might just be so fabulous that they can’t take it. One thought may be that you just “got lucky.” Or that you did something questionable to get that win or accomplish that goal. ![]() You may remind them that they made bad choices, but when faced with the same choices, you chose differently. ![]() You might be a walking, talking reminder of their failures. Instead of being energized and motivated by your success, they feel small. They may feel like a failure next to you. Making you feel or look bad literally makes them feel better, even superior. Instead of using that energy to work on their own view of themselves, they choose to bring others down. Poor self-esteem can lead people to dislike you. Here are the top 10 reasons why someone would dislike you for no apparent reason (in no particular order). And the thing is, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person. Sure, as lovely and brilliant and all-around fantastic you are, not everyone will see you that way. I drink non-cow milk, I’ve been to Whole Foods more than once, I have an espresso maker and know how to use it. Mostly because I know that some people see me as bougie, and I’m okay with that. I think it’s unnecessary to go down the list of reasons that I may or may not be bougie. Why people don’t like you, AKA, Why are they haters? I’m certain I wasn’t being referred to as a town dweller. In my case, referring to me as bougie, was clearly meant to be an insult. ![]() These days, the term is used more as an adjective and suggests that the bourgeois are only concerned with money and status. The goal of the bourgeois, then, was that their economic power in society would go on indefinitely. According to his writings, the bourgeois controlled the means of production during the industrialization period and were overly concerned with capitalism and the value of property. So bourgeois became a term associated with the middle class.īourgeois took on a more negative connotation with Karl Marx, the author of The Communist Manifesto. These people often made their livings in business and commercial pursuits. The word “bourgeois” is actually a term that was first used in the 1500s to refer to people who lived in a town. Informal, usually disparaging: marked by a concern for wealth, possessions, and respectability: BOURGEOIS Variants: or less commonly bourgie \ ˈbu̇r-ˌzhē, ˈbü-ˌzhē \ So, this got me thinking about the word, bougie, what makes someone bougie, and what makes someone refer to someone else as bougie.īougie, also spelled Bourgie or more recently, Boujee Even my (obviously, now ex-) boyfriend looked at me, waiting for my response. There was that time when I went to a restaurant to meet a boyfriend’s friends, and as I sat down, another woman said, and I quote: “I hate skinny bitches.” I sat down and reached for the drink menu and then realized that everyone was looking at me. So needless to say, my skin is like a callous. People senior to you treat you badly because they can, and really, no one is going to do anything about it, because you should be learning and you should be tough. I’m sure a lot of “normal” people would be surprised about this fact. Sometimes the words are worse than being physically assaulted.Īs for my career, while you are taught to care for others, even more than yourself, there are some “colleagues” that make it there business to make your life as difficult as possible. Sharp like knives and heavy like hammers. Instead, women use words as their weapons. Women don’t beat the crap out of each other like men tend to do as they’re growing up. You guys probably know what I’m talking about-how mean women can be to each other, for no apparent reason. Being one of five girls in the family, and being in the career that I’m in, you develop a thick skin. Please see Disclosures for more details.įortunately, I have thick skin. Why would she use such a disparaging label, as if we weren’t family? And as if being bougie was such a bad thing? I didn’t give any kind of response to what was obviously meant to be a pejorative descriptor. She emphasized the word, bougie, with a sour face, as if she were spitting out something that was sour and disgusting. One day, I was driving a family member somewhere and I’m not sure how it came up, but during the conversation, she called me, “bougie.” But she didn’t just say the word as a normal adjective, like the small bird or the big truck.
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